A man says his partner of six years wants him to pay her between $50-thousand and $100-thousand to have their baby. The 34-year-old first shared the story on the relationships subreddit, but it’s since been deleted and now lives on thanks to @redditships on Twitter, which re-shares popular threads. His very lengthy post begins with him explaining that he’s not legally married to his lady love, but they consider themselves “spiritually married” and consider it a “common law” marriage.
He writes that both he and his “wife” make around $175-thousand, are “very career-driven” and pretty much split their expenses 50/50, although they keep their finances totally separate. They’ve decided now is a good time to start having kids, but his partner has some terms for him to agree to.
- Her job provides maternity leave for up to a year, but only pays 50% of her salary for the first six months and the rest is unpaid, so she would lose about $50-thousand in income.
- So she wants him to pay her $50-thousand to compensate for that loss.
- And if she ends up taking the other six months off for maternity leave, she wants him to pay 50% of her salary on top of the first 50-grand.
- She’s also asking for him to split any unexpected pregnancy and childbirth costs.
- He writes that she “had a printed list of expectations in terms of what she expected financially” and while he admits he sees her logic, he’s “really very turned off” by the whole thing because it makes him feel like she’s “essentially asking me to pay her to have our child or children.”
- In her 16-pages of notes, she also includes plans about dividing housework and plans for saving for childcare and a housekeeper.
The man explains that he’s struggling to process her request and reveals he finds the idea of a payment plan to have a baby “just gross.” Thousands of readers have weighed in with their opinions:
- “This woman is iconic and revolutionary,” one person tweets, while another writes: “I’m sorry but this totally makes sense to me.”
- Another adds, “This is uncomfortable to us only because the loss women incur when they bear children has never been broken down and expressed in monetary terms at all.”
- “This relationship seems like two people who just live together but decide everything separately and have zero emotional intimacy,” writes another. “This is weird.”
Source: Twitter